Today is October 10th, which means that it is World Mental Health Day.
World Mental Health Day is a day of promoting awareness of various mental health issues and trying to break the stigma that continues to surround mental health struggles.
When I look back on my life, there are so many things that I would tell myself if I could. That is what I am going to do today, with this blog post.
Although I cannot tell my younger self these important lessons I’ve learned in life, I can hope that they will help others with their personal journey – both young and old alike.
Advice to my younger self
Young Jess here is some advice I wish I could tell you now.
For my Advice to my younger self, I have 6 pieces of advice that I wish I had understood as a teenager.
Life is hard and it doesn’t get easier, and that’s okay.
Seems like I’m starting on a bit of a downer, but bear with me here.
Hard does not have to mean bad. This is a common misconception that many people make.
Life is hard, like, really hard. There is a neverending string of struggles, trials & tribulations and moments that you feel will break you.
And you know what – that is okay.
Every single thing you go through, you will survive. You will not only survive them, but you will come out stronger, better and more beautiful than when you started.
Hard tasks in life are the ones that we come out of with the biggest sense of relief, achievement and like we can take on the world. So when the hard times happen, and they will remember that it is all part of your journey and once it is over your life will be all the better for it.
Be kind to those who support you
Oh, young Jess. You were so cruel to so many who had your back. Thankfully, most of them are still here. But being a teenager from a rough background lead you to so many dark places.
Never forget that those who support you, do so because they love you.
So even when you are feeling alone and unloved, remember that those who love you are there for you and you owe it to them, and yourself, to be kind to them.
Being kind to them does not mean bending to their will, they may not always be right. However, it does mean that you should at the very least show them your appreciation for their ongoing love and support.
Stick it out
School, hobbies, and everything in between – stick it out.
As I said, life gets hard, but when you stick it out you learn so much self-discipline and gain a much deeper insight to who you are as a person, and more importantly – who you want to be.
If it is important to you, then it matters.
People throughout your life will tell you that you are being “stupid” for crying over spilt milk.
If that milk was important to you, then it matters.
Never ever let anybody tell you otherwise.
Remember that they do not know your story. They don’t know that the milk you spilt cost you your last $2.
You don’t even need to tell them your story, that is yours. However, it is important to remember that just because it seems trivial to somebody else, that doesn’t mean that it shouldn’t be important to you.
Other peoples opinions are not your problem
It sounds harsh, but the truth of everything is that other peoples opinions are not your problem.
In fact, they really are not any of your business. Try to remember this when they have an opinion about your shoes or hair.
They can think what they like, that is their business. You keep on keeping on and live your best life!
It does get better
This is my final bit of advice for my younger me.
It does get better.
Remember when you were 8 and you thought your world was ending because you got into trouble for breaking your sister’s doll (that was an accident). You thought being grounded would never end – but it did.
Remember when you were 12 and you went to live with your mother, you thought your life would become a neverending cycle of sadness and anger – it wasn’t.
Everything that has been a struggle, has passed.
The terrible life you thought you would lead, ended up the complete opposite. All because you stuck with it, realised that your life matters and that you have the love and support of a select bunch of people.
You’ve got this
No matter how much life sucks at one point or another, it is not your be-all-end-all.
You are an incredibly strong and powerful person, and I hope that my message to my younger self has helped you on the road to see that!