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For years I have struggled with my anxiety.
The kind of anxiety that has set me back in my life, I even dropped out of uni due to the overwhelming anxiety.
Poor mental health is not fun, but it can be made easier to bear!
In our post on Starting a Self-Care routine we look at what self-care is, and how you can practice self-care in less than 5 minutes a day (Check it out if you haven’t seen it yet!)
In this post, we are going to take it a step further. We are going to look at ways you can create a box of happiness to get you through those rough days.
A quick note before we start – I am a huge believer of feeling your feelings. If you are sad, feel it. If you are anxious, feel it. But in saying that, we also need the right tools to get us past those stages. That is where this self-care package comes in!
What is a self-care package?
It is exactly what it says on the box!
It is a package, designed by you, to use on those days that you are in dire need of self-care.
Whether you are feeling sad, having a bad mental health day, overwhelmed or just fed up with your toddler yelling at you over a banana (Y’all mums know what I’m talking about!), there are days you just need to hang out with yourself.
How will this list help you?
It will provide you with not only ideas for your own self-care kit, but it will also give you a reason as to why each product is on the list.
Products weren’t chosen by their looks, prices or “sellability”.
They were chosen because, as a suffer from severe anxiety, I know how good they are!
Do you have to buy any of these products? Absolutely not. I am showing you options, recommendations and awesome ideas for your self-care journey.
This list can also be used as an awesome gift guide if you need ideas on what to give someone who’s got everything!
Always remember – you can’t pour from an empty cup! So let’s fill your cup back up.
Top tips when building your self-care package
- Don’t skimp, unless you have to.
As soon as you tell yourself that you aren’t worth the cost of the worlds best blanket, you are kicking your self-worth to the curb.
We want to build your self-worth, not smoosh it!
If you are on a budget, absolutely stick to that!
- Think about your needs.
Do you need something to help you get past a depressive episode? Do you need to feel comfort? Do you prefer writing things out or using a colouring book to release tension?
These are all questions you need to ask yourself before you pick and choose from the list I am about to present to you (If I had my way, it would ALL be in my self-care box!)
Everything your Self-Care kit needs
These things are absolutely incredible for those who suffer depression or anxiety. I don’t know what it is about these wonderful blankets, but they help you feel at ease and comfort.
Many self-care package posts recommend a dressing gown or similar, but I say screw that. We want to feel that delicious weight, smooshing all of our bad feels out!
I have also heard from friends and family that these are amazing for calming kids with ADHD and Autism. However, you will need to do your own research on that one!
(They also come in kids sizes, and in super fun designs!)
Choose from dozens of pretty patterns and colours here
A journal or notebook
Out of all of the things listed here, I believe that this one is the most important one of them all.
This is the best way to truly get those feelings sorted. It will let you write whatever, or however, you are feeling. Writing things down can help you get to the source of your feelings or trigger.
You definitely don’t need a pretty notebook for this, a scrap of paper will do just fine. Although, a notebook you have bought and chosen for this special box can help you feel more willing to release your thoughts.
This is your special journal.
For me, personally, I am a gigantic Paper Blanks fan. Their journals are such high quality and absolutely gorgeous!
I use them for my Bullet Journal, but I also have a separate one to use for all of my self-care needs.
Check them out here!
It can have a motivational quote on it, or just be something super cute that you adore. Anything that will make you feel happy.
My go-to mug used to be a little ladybird mug. I’d use it whenever I am feeling sad, or need to focus on something that bores the life out of me. (I no longer have it but am planning on replacing it soon, it always brought me so much happiness – even when I was ready to tear my hair out!)
Music & Headphones
Music can define our moods, and it can change our moods.
If you’re feeling happy, a sad song that brings back memories can quickly kill that happy mood. The opposite also applies!
When you are creating your self-care package, think about what music helps you, soothes you or, alternatively, helps you feel what you want to feel!
In addition to music, headphones are highly recommended over earphones.
What’s the difference?
Well.. Headphones go over your ears, rather than in. They are more comfortable and help create a smoother experience.
As a gamer, I now use SteelSeries headphones. For music only, purposes, you absolutely cannot go past Sennheiser! For years and years, I used their headphones and earphones. Their sound quality is amazing, even when you are looking at their lower-end products!
If good sound for your mood music is something you are interested in, make sure you check out the Sennheiser HD-280 Pro Headphones!
Adult colouring books became a huge hit in the recent years – it’s like the world collectively woke up and said “Hey, colouring is awesome and shouldn’t be for kids only”.
I know heaps of adults that love to use colouring as a way to calm and focus themselves.
The benefits of using a colouring book (even as an adult) include:
- It allows your brain to relax, and in turn, reduces stress and anxiety (bingo!)
- It forces you to focus on the task at hand, which trains your brain to become more focused – without being stressful.
- When you replace phone time with colouring time, colouring has been known to lead to improved sleep
Amazon has an amazing adult colouring book that is full of gorgeous positive quotes and short affirmations which makes it perfect for your self-care kit!
View it here.
This one only works at a certain time of day, however, I think it is an amazing thing to add to your package.
Warm-white fairy lights are so so good! There is nothing more magical than listening to your favourite music in the warm glow of tiny lights.
Mood lighting can always help your mood, no matter how crappy you are feeling. It is like it transports you to a whole new world!
This doesn’t even have to go inside your package. You could set them up in your safe space and have them ready to go!
My recommendation would be to get battery-operated ones, it makes them easier to set up and the batteries in them tend to last for-ev-er!
If you aren’t new here, you are probably aware of how much I love essential oils!
They are so good for everything!
Sad? Use some Bergamot.
Low on energy? Peppermint and Wild Orange can help.
Need to get some calm in your life? Lavender, all day, every day!
If you don’t have a diffuser or essential oils, today is your lucky day! I stock them in my store!
For this specific purpose (our self-care awesomeness), I recommend checking out the Emotional Aromatherapy Kit. It comes with a diffuser and FIVE Essential oils to help support your emotional and spiritual wellbeing.
Something to get you moving
This can be anything. It can be a Jane Fonda workout video from the 80s if that’s your groove. Or it can be a pre-loaded list of yoga videos (I follow Yoga with Adriene, she is incredible!).
So add something to your box (or next to it, if its something like a yoga mat!) and get it out when you are feeling low.
The movement doesn’t have to mean going for a run, as long as you stretch those muscles out and get that blood flowing. I promise it will make you feel better!
If you don’t already have a yoga mat, and it is something you are interested in starting (super recommended by me, it helps tame my anxiety so much!) then here is an excellent, affordable starter yoga mat!
No links or recommendations for this one, this is all you!
Be sure to add some of your favourite snacks, chocolate, tea.. whatever helps you through the not-so-good times.
The chocolate itself is really good at helping to release feel-good hormones, so if you don’t live in a hot climate (it might melt!), then be sure to have it in your self-care package. If you do live somewhere where storing it isn’t ideal, keep a back up in the fridge!
A letter from you, to you
Again, this one is all you.
A good method of getting through the tough times is to read a letter you have written from yourself.
When you are having a good day, try to take the time to write yourself a letter and store it in your self-care package.
Remind yourself of how awesome you are (because you are!), tell yourself some of your best qualities and that you will get through the tough times.
This may sound silly, but sometimes all you need is self-talk to get you through some of the shittier times.
Other similar ideas:
Ask your close loved ones and friends to write you similar letters.
If that isn’t your thing, try finding relevant affirmations to write down and add.
Self Care on the go
Creating a self care kit doesn’t have to be limited to a box you keep at home.
Sometimes life gets so overwhelming that you may need grounding when you’re nowhere near your self-care kit!
For times like this, or when you just want a little self-care, here are my top self-care items to take with you on the go!
Before I got wireless earbuds, I was kind of against them.
“That just seems so silly, why would I want them!?”
Now I have Samsung Galaxy Buds and I LOVE them.
I use them constantly, and they have become an essential part of my self-care routine.
They are small enough to carry around and block out all of the background noise while I listen to calming music.
I use mine all the time.
To sleep, at work and even when I just need 5 minutes of silence from an overwhelming toddler. (they have excellent noise cancelling, but also allow you to set them up so that you can hear a certain amount of ambient noise – bonus safety feature for you and your kids!)
And because they aren’t attached to my phone all of the time, it leaves me free to use them wherever I want – even the gym.
Ive only recently discovered these and they are incredible!
Acupuncture has been used for centuries to help calm nerves and relieve tension.
Having acupuncture in ring form is perfect for easing your mind on the go – plus they are incredibly cheap.
These rings work by activating pressure points along your fingers while you roll them up and down your finger – it’s pretty genius.
A journal and pen
Yep – journals are here to stay, and they make an apperance in this list too.
Writing out your feelings on the go can be a great way to stay focused on tasks at hand.
Carry around a journal so that you can:
- Express how you feel in the now
- Unload negative and stressful thoughts that may be distracting you
- Ease your mental load by jotting down your to-dos that keep flooding your mind.
You don’t need to carry around a huge notebook, it doesn’t even have to be A5.
Paperblanks stock convenient slim-line journals that are ideal for travel.
A photo of a loved one
Carrying a photo around with you is the easiest and quickest way to help you stay focused and to fill yourself with poisitive emotions.
WIth the joy of technology, you don’t even need to carry around a photo in your purse anymore (but I totally still do!).
Simply make a photo of your favourite person or pet as your lock screen image on your phone – a constant reminder of everything you hold dear and why you do what you do!
Now that we have covered the amazing product suggestions to get you started on your way, I have some additional resources for you!
Ultimate bundles recently released a mini-bundle that is aimed specifically at self care.
This bundle will give you everything you need to further your self-care goals and get you even closer to your ultimate calm.
The self-care mini bundle contains 22 resources for less than $30 – all aimed at helping you live you live the life you know you deserve!
You can check out this amazing deal here.
We have designed this printable specifically for this self-care package.
It is a simple print-out that you can use to work through your feelings.
This is 100% Free, you don’t even need to sign up to get it! Just hit the “Download” button and you’re good to go.
There are always support services available, if you or anyone in need is in need, find your local support groups or chat lines. If you are struggling to find anything local, I am happy to help.
Your problems are never too small, never insignificant and there is always someone who will listen.