I want to talk to you about a very serious and important issue today, the underlying theme of my blog – mental health.
October is coming up, and October is anxiety and depression awareness month.
Overcoming anxiety and depression is tough, but possible. Even if you suffer from it for the rest of your life you can still make your life incredible and fulfilling.
It is estimated that 1 in 4 people worldwide suffers from a mental health disease.
This is not a great number, but it is an important one. It is the number that lets you know that you are not alone.
I’ve lived a rough life, and the result has been a constant mental and emotional struggle just to get through the days.
I know how hard it is overcoming anxiety and depression
Mental health issues are some of the hardest issues people are ever faced with. It is nothing to be ashamed of, and help is always available.
No matter how small your issues may seem, I can promise you that they aren’t small. If it matters to you – it matters!
I want to share with you the ways I have coped with my anxiety and depression, and give you some additional tips that may help you.
Before we start, please remember that I am not a medical professional. Everything I say is my own thoughts and opinions, and you should always talk to your medical professionals if you are struggling.
Ways I have coped with my constant internal battles
I acknowledged that I wasn’t okay
You have probably heard the saying by now – It’s okay to not be okay.
There is so much truth to it. Every single one of us, mental health issues or not, has been faced with moments that we thought would break us.
For a long time, I was a self-sabotaging mess. Through most of my 20s, I was burning bridges and ruining relationships all over the place. It was almost as if I was my own little tornado, on a path of self-destruction.
One day I faced the music. I looked behind me and saw a trail of destruction and realised that I just couldn’t keep living this way!
That acknowledgement was the most powerful and important step, and once you reach it you will know that you are ready to live your best life!
Finding the right therapist
Many people turn to therapy and give up because their therapist is not the right fit for them. Don’t give up! You need to keep trying them until you find the right fit – and once you do, everything will start to fall into place!
Listening to medical professionals
My whole life I was against anti-depressants. The stigma that surrounds them can be really intense and off-putting.
Medication is not for everyone, and definitely a personal preference. However, once I started listening to my doctors and went on medication my world started to become a bit easier to handle.
Building a safety net
This is one of the best things I could have done!
I spoke to the people closest to me and let them know where I was at.
How I felt, what I was thinking and my concerns. I asked them all to check in on me regularly and they did an incredible job.
Since I made this “safety net”, my life has improved. Despite this, I still have an incredible support network there for me.
It is up to you to build your support network – talk to the people who you trust the most. It is really important to remember that people cannot help you if they don’t know anything is wrong.
Luna is the light of my life, I could not imagine my world without her.
When things get really tough I look at her and remind myself that without me in her life, she would be broken.
Plus I want to stay around and watch her grow up and teach her how to be an amazing human.
Not everyone has children, but there will be something positive in your life to focus on – I promise!
Once you find it, hold on to it and let it guide you to better days.
Gained a positive focus
This blog is my focus, my goal and my drive.
It helps me take everything I learn and want to teach others and deliver it in a way that also lets me release some creativity.
Blogs are pretty awesome!
Your positive doesn’t have to be a blog, it can be anything. Painting, reading, fitness goals – whatever you want! Just find that focus and work on it.
Refusing to let the stigma affect me
When you’re overcoming anxiety and depression, there is so much stigma still around mental health.
I want to break that! I am so fed up with mental health being brushed under the rug and ignored.
Once I stopped letting it be a stigmatised issue, I felt a huge load off my shoulders.
I started to open up to those who are close to me and started to truly understand that I am not alone.
Accepting that the past is over
Everyone has regrets and things that they rethink and wish they could change – this is especially true for those with anxiety and depression.
I have wasted so many precious hours wishing I could change certain things I have done in my life.
But that’s the thing – I am just wasting my life on an impossible goal.
Once I started to accept that the past is the past, it helped me control my anxiety better. On top of this, it also lets me harness all of the past bad and use it for good.
There are so many valuable lessons in our mistakes, so if you ever feel like you have failed in the past just use that to succeed in your future!
Understanding that it is a long road
Overcoming anxiety and depression is such a long, hard road.
Knowing this really is the hardest part of the battle. If you don’t know, it makes the whole journey feel much harder. You spend your days thinking “when will this end!“
It may never end – and that sucks. Trust me, I know!
Once you realise that it is a long road, it makes you look more at the long-term as well as the short-term.
You WILL be okay
These are things I have done and they have really really helped improve my anxiety and depression.
I really hope that at least one of these will help you with your internal struggles.
You are important, loved and safe.
Remember – if it matters to you, it matters! Never make anybody make you feel like it doesn’t.
The number for LifeLine in Australia is 13 11 14.
Every country has a different help number, look yours up and always have it on hand.